When I started this blog – which followed one created many years earlier – the tagline was suggested by a book by Rosamund and Benjamin Zander – entitled The Art of Possibility. I first met Ben Zander on a TedTalk, where he introduced a bunch of techies to classical music. The Talk has still maintained one of the highest ratings ever – over two million views. Their earlier book showed how both he and his wife have inspired many to bring out the best possibilities latent within themselves.
The new book, Pathways to Possibility, is even more explicit. Written by Rosamund Stone Zander, a family systems therapist, it resonates with another of my favorites in the field – Ed Friedman. She unpacks the reality that most of our negative aspects arises from our own experiences as children, and unless we recognize and re-frame such experiences, they play into everything that we do as adults. We can either recast them as memories – things in our past that no longer have control over us – or see them as part of our continuing story and growing maturity. Her message is simple but profound. I have seen this in action when another practitioner in the field helped a woman re-write a negative story and it changed her whole attitude in an instant.
Reading this book – and watching Ben Zander coach his music students on YouTube are excellent lessons for anyone who wants to initiate change – as another wise colleague has said – we have to be the change that we want to see happen. Try these!