For most of my life I have been an inveterate self-help reader – expecting resources from the not-for-profit or the churchy world to provide the answers to my recurring shortcomings. This isn’t totally bad but it gets complicated when I try to integrate about a dozen of the gimmicky solutions.
Most of the resources have lots in common. The churchy world ones are often simpler and better – but they come with a lot of baggage that doesn’t make them useful in more secular settings. So to talk about them without seeming totally arrogant is a challenge.
But here is a small one. Silence is necessary. Just shutting up simply allows the quantity of stuff in our minds to come to the fore. One way to tamp it down a little is to focus on something – and a small candle helps.
This one is more than 10 years old and came from a visit with my late husband to beautiful Butchart Gardens in Victoria BC. Lighting it, looking at it and just sitting for a half hour is one way to try to move into the silence.